A hook-up date might seem pretty straightforward. You’re both there for sex, so what else is there to consider? Well, for starters, she’s a human being just like you. Unless you’re the world’s biggest douche, it’s a good idea to be respectful, even if you are just using her for a lay. Keep in mind, there’s always the possibility that she’ll want to keep seeing you for sexual purposes only. A sex-only relationship is something most men only dream about. If you play your cards right the first time you hook-up, chances will be good that it can keep happening.

Don’t Be a Dick

Everyone wants to be treated decently, so even if your hook-up date likes it rough and wants you to call her by every dirty name in the book, don’t get carried away. Give her what she wants, but don’t cross the line and act as a dick, if you meet for drinks first, offer to pay. Hold the door for her and offer your arm if you’re crossing the street.

It’s also important that you be up front with her about what’s about to happen. Make sure she’s clear that you’re not looking for a relationship. She likely already knows, but she will appreciate your candour. And if, after the fun is over, you think she might be receptive to repeat hook-ups, go ahead and ask. Emphasize that you had a good time and that you’d be open to more. Again, it’s important to relay that you’re not looking for a relationship. If she likes the way you perform in bed, she’ll probably be interested in hooking up again. If she’s not, at least you asked.

Don’t Get Carried Away

If you’ve never done something like this before, it’s easy to get nervous and worked up. It’s important that you treat it for what it is: a date that’s purely about sex. If you start treating it like any other first date, you can start putting out vibes that you’re looking to commit. A woman that only wants to fuck will shy away from any indication that you want any relationship.

If you’re meeting for dinner or drinks beforehand, don’t make reservations at some expensive, romantic place. Instead, keep it casual. Its okay to flirt, of course, but you don’t want to become intense and soulful. Keep some levity in the conversation. Ultimately, you’re both only here for a good time, so keep that in mind.

Don’t Get Too Personal

Sex is just sex and that’s all a hook-up is about. She’s not there to learn about your past, dreams, and goals, and she’s not going to want to tell you about hers. Obviously things are going to get personal to a degree; it is sex after all. But you can keep it a little impersonal. Keep conversation topics to things that are relevant to what you’re both doing: favourite sex positions, favourite foreplay tactics and favourite naughty toys. Explore the most sexually adventurous things you’ve done. Make suggestions about what you’d like to do to each other. These tactics will keep it from getting too personal.