You might get a thrill from seeing your girlfriend all dressed up in lingerie and lipstick, but if you have been together for a while, all she might see is hard work. It takes a lot of effort to get that dolled up, and she might decide that she’s better off skipping that and just crawling into bed. If you want to get that spark of excitement back, it’s time to get her to dress up for you.

Step One: Plant the Idea

The first thing that you should do on your quest to get your girlfriend to dress up for you is plant the idea that she should. This is actually very simple to do as a basis for comparison. You can look at other hot women, and still get points in your girlfriend’s book. How? Simple! when you and she are out in public, find a woman who’s obviously very dressed up. She’s wearing provocative clothing and she looks good. Point her out to your girlfriend, and tell her that she could pull off that outfit so much better than this random woman; whether or not this is objectively true doesn’t matter. Tell her that she totally rocks “sexy stuff” like that, and you love it when she really takes the time to show her stuff. If she was wearing that outfit, all eyes would be on her.

The correlation is that she’s not wearing that outfit and all eyes are on the other girls, thus, not on her. There’s no reason for you to say anything else. Her subconscious will be picking at that comment for weeks.

Step Two: the Carrot of Encouragement

When your girlfriend does something good, slather her with praise. It’s as simple as reminding yourself to check whether or not she has make up on, and complimenting her when she does. If she puts on fishnets under her skirt because she knows you like them, tell her that her legs look great. Keep at it; these little pebbles of praise will be hoarded and stored away and she’ll miss them. If she skips a day on make-up, just don’t mention it. She’ll miss being complimented and you can bet that the lipstick and eye shadow will be back soon. Next time, they may even be accompanied by a low cut top to grab your attention.

Step Three: The Stick of Mild Disapproval

If your girlfriend isn’t deterred by the fact that you never give her compliments anymore, it’s going to take a little bit of a firm hand. Tell her that sex is more fun when both of you try harder, so next time you’re going to wear your sexy boxers, and she’s going to…? Let her fill in the blank. You can also give her a bit less foreplay when she’s not wearing anything appealing. Be subtle and slow. Obviously a woman will react poorly to just being told what to do, so keep up these methods and have patience. Within a few months, you’ll have sexy, tights and make up wearing gorgeous woman waiting for you a couple nights a week.