How to Get the Most From Your First Date

There are several things you need to take into account when you’re getting ready for your very first married date. You don’t want to mess it up, whether this is the first date you’ve been on in several years or just the first one you’ve been on this week.

Examine your choice in clothing.

How you dress when you go on the first date really says a lot about who you are, and what your intentions are. There are a few different messages you should send, and a lot that you CAN send. Here are some examples:

• Jeans, t-shirt, tennis shoes. This says you’re not really looking for a date so much as you are looking for a woman that will take care of you. It also says that you’re trying to seem younger than you are.

• Slacks, button-up shirt, no jacket. This says you’re looking for a good, casual time and you have your shit together. You’re married, but not dead, and you still have a sense of style. You’re also not locked into anything too fancy.

• A suit. This says you’ve either come from work, or you’re expecting an escort. Unless you’re the kind of man who wears a suit all the time regardless of occasion, don’t wear a suit on your first date unless it’s with an escort.

• Shorts of any kind. This says you are either too young to take seriously, or you’re some sort of Islander. Use with caution.

• Sweaters. This says it’s the holidays, and you don’t care enough about this woman to look nice.

Yes, that’s a lot to keep in mind. Just remember that any woman you date is going to be going over her own wardrobe just as carefully, and studying what kind of impression she wants to make on you.

In general, as you can see, it’s a good idea to stick to nice slacks and a pressed button-up shirt. If it’s cold, wear a good coat. The kind of man who skimps on his coat cannot be trusted to splurge on other necessities and luxuries.

When you’re going on a married date, where you take this woman is important.

Try as hard as you can not to get this element of your date wrong. You want this woman to come back for more again, and not ignore you after the first date is over.

Choose a place that makes your date comfortable.

As annoying as this sounds, the first date isn’t about your comfort. We’re not trying to say that you’re not important, but we are saying that it’s a lot easier for a woman to get as many dates as she wants than it is for men to get as many dates as they want.

If you want the woman you’re dating to stick around for a second date, make sure to take her somewhere she feels safe. This means nowhere around her place of residence, because that isn’t safe if she’s a married woman (and she obviously is).

Make sure to listen to her.

If she says she doesn’t want anything private or fancy, listen to her. If you ignore her, she’s not going to think that you’re a fun, spontaneous man. She’s going to think you’re the kind of man who won’t listen to her no matter what she says, which isn’t the message you want to send.

If she wants to meet somewhere quiet and secluded, make sure you find a place. If she doesn’t know a place, get online and find the kind of place that will keep you both safe from private investigators.

Don’t get drunk.

You might be nervous, and a little bit of liquid courage might sound like a great idea. However, we have to urge you to resist. No woman wants to go out with a man who can’t control his alcohol intake, no matter how perfect he might seem in every other way.

If you want to have a few drinks, go ahead, by all means. You can get rid of a little of your pesky tension, which can only help both for the moment and for the night ahead.

Match her drinking if you want, but don’t outstrip her.

If the girl you’re meeting up with doesn’t drink, sorry. Tonight, you’re limited to exactly one drink. You want to be okay to drive at any point you might be required.

If she drinks five drinks, you may drink up to five drinks. Just alternate each drink with water, so you don’t get to be completely sloshed before you even have a chance to have fun.

Always remember that one of the biggest reasons women are unhappy in marriage is because many of their husbands drink. Don’t be that man.