Sooner or later, you’re going to have to give a gift to that somewhat special woman in your life. You really do appreciate her; there’s a reason it’s a friend with benefits. You want to be good to her, but you don’t want to send any potentially confusing signals or mess with the good thing between you two. Here are some naughty and nice gift ideas to please that special friend in your life.

Naughty Gifts to Make Her Purr

You can’t go wrong with a gift certificate to a sex shop or online sex toy retailer. A little might not go a long way, so make sure that there aren’t any expiration dates on the gift cards before you buy. She might take a little while to decide what to spend it on, or she might save up and use your gift to make that perfect, expensive toy finally come down to her price range. Don’t be pushy and demanding, but you can bet that if you help her get the sex toy of her dreams, you won’t be left out in the cold when she wishes to use it. Keep an open mind, no matter what she buys, and be thankful you had a hand in bringing this shopping spree to life.

You can also consider buying specific things that she’s mentioned she already wants. If you two engage in light bondage using a tie as wrist binders, she might appreciate a gift of real, silk lined cuffs. Use your head, and don’t go overboard here; this gift is about her, so don’t buy her something you don’t think she’ll use.

Nice Gifts to Build Your Friendship

If you want a gift that will stay out of the bedroom, be sweet, but not overwhelmingly romantic. Get her some chocolates or a tiny toy. These may be a romantic dating cliché, but in this day and age, they’re sweeter than passionate sex. A pound of delicious candy says that you care and want to spoil her, but nothing more.

If you’re looking for more bonding time on the friendship side of things, buy her a video game that the two of you can play together. Nothing’s better than a long gaming session interrupted by sex breaks to keep the blood flowing and your reflexes sharp. Talking about a game is also a safe topic that makes sure that your friendship doesn’t get lost in all the hormones floating around a sexual relationship.

Coming back to gift certificates, give her some for a nice (but not terribly romantic) restaurant, and tell her to take her girlfriends out. She might choose to spend them on you, but it won’t look like you’re fishing for that and you can show that you want her to have a good time no matter what.

Shopping for a friend with benefits can be tricky, but the key is to avoid the overlap between sex and friendship. That overlap is called romance, and if you’re shopping for a friend with benefits, you want to stick to either friendship or sex.