Tell Yourself You’re Sexy
Mantras exist for a reason. Short phrases that you tell yourself when you’re feeling down or getting ready in the morning can make you feel better. You will absolutely feel stupid saying it at first, but try a few until they feel comfortable. “I am an attractive man”, “I am sexy, no matter what size”. Once you find one that suits you, stick to it.
It may seem like a totally female solution, but guys can enjoy shopping too. It’s important to dress for your body type. Putting on extra pounds while wearing the same old clothes that you had at your old size doesn’t make sense and can often make you look fatter than you actually are. If you can afford it go out to a men’s store and talk to someone who can really fit your clothes to your new body. Try to buy clothes that can change with you by being easily altered in case you either gain or lose some weight. That’s only an option for people who can afford it. The next best bet would be to head to the thrift store. They really do have some good clothes if you’re willing to look for them. You’ll be able to buy yourself a new wardrobe for fairly cheap and be able to replace items as you go depending on your weight.
See What Your Lady Thinks
Often times men gain weight after getting comfortable in a relationship. It’s an annoying habit of not needing to impress her with your good looks anymore and being cared about. Ask her what she thinks of all of this. She fell for you once, thinking you’re sexy as hell, and she most likely still does. We view ourselves more harshly than anyone else ever would, so what you’re seeing as being a spare tire might not actually be as bad as you think. It will feel stupid to ask, but ask your girlfriend to tell you what features you have that make you sexy to her. The reminding might be all it takes to get you back to feeling better.